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I just found out that my wife cheated on me while we were dating. Her excuse is that we were fighting and she got drunk and can't remember how it happened, which I just can't believe! She says she didn't want to do it, but didn't know how to leave, again sounds like a bunch of crap to me!! This was about 6 years ago and we have been married for almost 4 years and have 2 kids. I realize it was a long time ago and she swears it hasn't happened again, which I do believe, but I just can't get the mental image out of my head. I love her and do not want to leave, especially with 2 kids, but I just don't know how to forgive her and move on. My advice is to not move past it.
Dear Abby : My wife and I are in our 60s and have been married more than 40 years.
Recently, while going through some old boxes in the basement, I ran across her diary and discovered that she had an affair while we were engaged. This has left me depressed, hurt and feeling very down. Should I confront her with my findings?
Dear Hurting: If you feel the need to bring this up after 40 years, then rather than let it fester and ruin the next 40, tell your wife what you have found. However, before you do that, remember diaries are supposed to be private, and you will have to explain why you took it upon yourself to read something that was never meant for you to see.
Question - (26 January ): 15 Answers - (Newest, 29 July ): A male age , anonymous writes: I just found out my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. I'm really confused about what to do. Part of me wants to just leave and get a divorce, but my wife and I have been married for more than 10 years and 3 children. Apr 24, I cheated on my now wife after we had begun dating. We started dating in early November and I cheated on her at Christmas with an old girlfriend. I told her about it. We fought about it. But it has never gone away. I know she still resents me for it and she will throw it in my face at times. We have been married now for 25 years. Aug 20, I Just Found Out My Wife Cheated on Me Do I have to bring it up? so I was wary about having sex when we first started dating. Now, I feel so comfortable with him that I really want to, and he Author: Stoya.
Now I realize I am the same way with my kids. I love my children more than life itself.
But how do I become more loving? The problem is, my daughter is 9 and she is turning into me and my mother.
It worries me. How do I combat this? Dear Bad Role Model: You have already taken the first step by recognizing the pattern that is being repeated.
Found out my wife cheated on me when we were dating
Another step in the right direction would be to discuss your discomfort with expressing emotion with a licensed therapist, because it has affected not only your daughter but also your relationship with your husband.
However, I would caution you about one thing you said in your letter. I have always abided by the philosophy that if you think something nice about someone else, you should share it. You might suggest that to her. A reader, anonymouswrites 28 January :.
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Found out wife cheated before marriage in a detective fashion It would bug me when we were dating and it would come up often and the story would always change. I decided to move on since our relationship was impeccable and wanted to spend my life with this wonderful woman. We were both 17 years old and I had a lot of relationships and she. Apr 01, I just found out that my wife cheated on me while we were dating. Her excuse is that we were fighting and she got drunk and can't remember how it happened, which I just can't believe! She says she didn't want to do it, but didn't know how to leave, again sounds like a bunch of crap to me!! This was about 6 years ago and we have been married for almost 4 years and . Jan 15, This term "cheat/cheating" comes up a lot on Quora. I'm guessing it may mean different things to different people. To me, as a "senior" citizen, cheating means to me that someone had sex with another person while they were in a mutually committed.
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Top agony aunts. About Us. I found out that while we were engaged and getting ready for our marriage she 'hooked up' with an ex-boyfriend.
I confronted her and she admitted it. She said we had just had a huge fight and weren't talking for about a week. I do remember that fight, but we didn't break up, just stopped talking for a few days. She told me her ex-bf had been calling her the whole time we were dating and engaged, and she just met with him, and 'things' happened.
well if your asking me what I want, I want him NOT to have cheated on me, but I can't change that. the girl was a friend of his friends, she was staying for a few days in town and she asked to go out with him. they went out one night, had a few beers and went to a park. they did it, and after they left, and he never saw her again. according to him. My wife cheated in the past; My wife cheated in the past. I have been married for 34 years. Two years ago, my wife admitted that she allowed an old boyfriend to have sex with her just 3 months before we married and whilst we were engaged. Apparently it only happened once. Mar 25, Found out my husband cheated on me for a year - not when we were married but when we were dating. He didn't come clean on his own. I found an email while looking for the Peapod delivery time. That would be because I'm a stay-at-home mom of two young sons.
She is very sorry and very upset, but she is still the one who did me wrong! She keeps appologizing and bringing up the great marriage and family we have.
I know to her it is 12 years in the past, but to me since I just found out about it, it was like yesterday.
I'm very hurt and feel betrayed. I don't know if this marriage can work, I now have huge trust issues. I'm the kind of husband that trusts my wife and lets her go out with her friends and stuff.
Some of her friends husbands won't let their wifes go out at all unless they are with, I'm not like that.
But, now I am having serious isssues with my wife and trusting her.
Signs she is a cheater!
I don't think my wife has done anything wrong since we're married, but if she could do this to me when we were engaged, I'm starting to think all kinds of horrible scenarios and I'm afraid that if we stay together, I'll never trust her again.
But if we seperate and divorce, I'll miss the love of my wife, and I'd hate to put our kids through all that.
What do I do? I think we need counselling, but I don't really feel like telling some stranger about our personal stuff and that my wife cheated on me.
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