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I was dating this army diver for about 5 months everything was great he was great and we were great together. The chemistry I felt like was off the charts. That alone showed me how interested he was in me amongst other things like us getting tested together. Talking about his deployment Me even waiting for him for a month when he went out of town on a mission So am I a fool to ever think this was actually going somewhere and to let myself be vulnerable? Fast forward to this past week just after he left my place. I know our relationship and our bond for the past months so I worried about him thinking something was wrong the last thing on my mind is this guy ghosted me.

I agree that it is being used as an excuse in this case. Freedom Tastes, I agree with your argument about mental illness. People suffering from it are struggling to get help,and these ACs are casually using it to get in and out of girls vajays or brains. He admitted a few of them were his exes. I got myself out of his museum. He is trying to keep you and your relationship hopes at bay, while still keeping the door open for sex and fun without strings. When will we learn to be true to ourselves about what sex actually means to us.

Some people can have sex with no emotional ties. Your guy is trying to keep the booty call door open. If sex was indeed meaningless to you, you would not be dissecting his behavior, his lack of response to your texts.

He does not want to be your man.

Feb 08,   Ghosting is especially rife in the early stages of dating. In a time where someone might juggle multiple contacts due to apps and websites, or where their heads are easily turned due to a plenty-of-fish-in-the-sea mentality, some argue that surely they can't be expected to break up with or at least give a heads-up to each person they date. In the first date the ghosting to avoid the first date. One person who i was ghosted sucks, they do if i slept fine at this how to take. Thread started by a person you're 17, and he tries to take them go after others, the bad news is dating. Move to about 6 months later one of dating phenomenon in the relationship was finally going to meet you date. Oct 10,   Firstly, any man who would just ghost after 5 months of dating is NOT a great guy, AT ALL. That shows a man who is a coward and has very little integrity. I doubt that makes you feel any better but hopefully it will help you remember that he isn't the man you thought or hoped he was. This kind of man is not someone worthy of you.

He just wants to have fun with you when he is in the mood. And you are letting him string you along with all his BS explanations. If you really wanted no strings, you would not need explanations. Elgie R Thanks for you honest insight as with other ladies in here. Yes Kookie is right on that one. I needed to hear it.

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I actually can not have sex without emotions involved. And from when we met,it was for the purspose of dating with a possibility of a relationship. Ready to move on. Unless ofcourse to blast him with one of BR quotes when he gets out of his AC cave to ask for booty call. I think ghosting is rude as hell. I was ghosted recently by a man I was interested I should have known he came on super strong based on some common ground we had and was very complimentary during the two dates we had.

I think part of the reason ghosting can be painful is that it is so easy to make contact with somebody in a variety of modalities and requires so little effort that when somebody does not make the effort we notice instantly. I have come to really distrust extensive texting in any kind of romantic relationship or potential relationship. I think it creates fake intimacy which then leads to confusion when somebody does the ghost or the fade.

The reality is the man who ghosted on me did me a favor at least I was not stupid enough to have sex with him, I was very attracted he showed me who he was early on. If he was to pop back in, I would ignore him.

I am not going to lie and say my feelings were not hurt but I hope I use it as a lesson in the future on how to treat others. Sadly, I think ghosting is a permanent thing and probably always was we just notice it more immediately now. And it can be hard to process if you happen like me to be on the more sensitive side, that is my burden though not something I expect others to carry.

The reality is people will do anything to avoid feeling bad about themselves and online dating offers the illusion that there is always somebody available on the assembly line whether that is actually true or not. People are masters of avoidance. I was at the gym last night and realized half the people there were going through the motions of working out while glued to their phones. Once you are easily distracted, once you are numb to being present in anything, ghosting on others is so much easier.

I myself have been guilty of ghosting after dates. No amount of explaining was going to fix these situations and a phone message was going to lead to demands for an explanation. I agree that extended texting without meeting right away is a huge contributor to this because you expect the person to be something they usually are not or they unfold into someone very unsuitable.

The reality of the person hits hard. I am just too vulnerable living alone at the edge of a very small town where everyone knows where you live, work, etc.

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Sorry you went through that too Kookie and are here sharing and helping. I pray to the Gods of BR to let him make contact so I can just put him in his ass clownery place. Last time,a few hours before we parted he sounded like he really wanted to offend me. Later he was obviously feeling bad and was bactracking and apologising for insensitive views.

Writing it out,I also shared it with my friend,make me actually not give a shit that he is ghosting me. He should stay where ghosters belong,in te darkness. Anyone who can make comments like that about indigenous people to your face is not worth knowing.

Makes the job of moving on without them so much easier. Hi Rachel, Thanks for your words of support. I have not responded yet. I really want to respond,not to engage him, but to just put him in his assclownery place once and for all. Oh and I agree on your Plenty of Fish views. For how long were you on POF and how was your experience? I have actually read a few scary stuff and not so nice review which have now made me hyper alert,chatting with my hand hovering on delete key.

I have two friends who met on Plenty of Fish and are now married, happily so. Of course, I do think that they represent the extreme minority of online dating experiences. Freedom, Thanks for sharing positive outcomes from pof. Will see how the current one unfolds as it is so far one unusual for me due to slow pace. Paula, Sorry about your experience with that ghoster. The extensive texting thing was what I fell for too,by the time we met It felt like oh we knew each other for long time.

I do agree with you that it is rude and does hurt. I mean this is a person you showed up for and he gave all the impressions that all was ok. Good ridance. You do sound strong and come acros as you are keeping your head high despite the hurt.

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Keep that up. I tend to agree that even though we do not owe each other explanations,It is basic decency to say something. It shows maturity, consideration of another persons feelings but also that you have selfrespect.

As opposed to just dissappearing like you have been hijacked by aliens. As if another person will not notice that they met you yesterday and you future planned a,b,c. The ghosting we are on about is when ghoster have shown up,spend time together,gave the impression they are into you,make or give impression of future plans. And theeen boom,they have dissappeared in thin air. No message to explain their dissappearance,leaving you wondering and confused.

Being on the receiving end of that is pure hell. Theres always some part of me trying to protect myself, not invest too much.

Ghosting occurs in both short and long time spans. Ghosting in any form is rude yet on many blogs, is considered acceptable behavior. Its not our job to tell folk about themselves. Sometimes on line I prefer when dudes vanish.

Lets me unambiguously know where I stand. My dating season is only three months long due to running a farm, fixing up a house totally solo, plus working full time in a place where winter driving is dangerous. I dont want folk wasting my time.

My highly active, non- conventional lifestyle is not for the sedentary and convenience oriented. Hopefully Nats next post will be on the slow fade which is more insidious. Thanks for sharing your experience. Being with someone in a relatinship for several months and they vanish,is just cruel. Not to mention others experience of being ghosted after several years with ghosters.

I feel lije what you said too,hard to trust and am afraid of deeping my whole feet in the relationship. Amazing how these bad relationships leave scars so that even when you have moved on from the actual AC, the deep seated remnants of their shit still come out floating and smear our way of engaging in what in some occassions we would never know if they would have turned into mutually fullfilling relationships if we fully showed up emotionally.

All the best. Afrok, that is correct. They just go Poof! Kellia, I agree. The behavious is cowardly. I could not just look at their requests to meet again and ignore their texts as if they not same people i just met yesterday and for a couple of weeks we have been texting or chatting back and force.

And in all cases they came back appreciating honesty and wishing me well. Well except one who had code red allover him it was scary. I still texted him to say no thanks for me and wish him well, but his reaction was full on. I blocked him and stopped to engage. Why is it so hard?

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It must be a very sad existence to have that amount of cowrdice. We had a guy do this to us at work a few months back. Great to be alive! A week went on like this, with no call or anything from him. Especially since he was so chipper the day before. Anyway, we were full-on ghosted. That guy at your work is hilarious! Too funny. Say something?

Haha Say Something :. Good one! I thought the only way to get you to come here is singing your name loud :. Sorry guys. Afrok, lol for real girl!!!! Good to hear from you too! Well, I think I just got ghosted. I was talking to a guy for a few months and we finally decided to meet. So here I am wondering why this is happeningagain. When does it end? I think it was the same for him too. If that makes sense.

Jay, I think that guy is doing what we would be advising you to do here if the tables were turned. He is may be being kind to himself by either slowing his role and proceed with care or letting you sort yourself out without mind effing him with your indecision?

Sorry if it does sound harsh but I have been there in the past myself. That he is stringing you along until when it suits him. You need to check your emotional availability not just to this guy but if you decide to start dating someone else. I think if we are not ready to date it is best to stay away from stringing people along otherwise we become ACs ourselves even if unintentional. Afrok, thank you for your advice and I agree. Or a better way to put ithanging on to me for his own selfish reasons.

Thank you ladies. Afrokoops yes I did read that wrong my bad. Thank you for the input. He probably thought I was in the beginning unintentional on my part because I was still getting over a breakup while talking to him.

Then again, I was honest with him about it and was willing to wait. Right before we met it seemed like we were on the same page, wanting to meet and have a relationship. It seems like after we met for a second time, the texting got slower as if he was pulling away. If it is about me, I wish he would say something. He does know I want a relationship though. Maybe he had other plans. Not with all your heart and soul, anyway. That is his right. Good article. We seemed pretty serious, he wanted to meet my parents early on the dating stage, he suggested kids, marriage after a year dating I met his mum who lived on the East coast.

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The trip seemed like it went well. I came back to Cali and he to Illinois, a few days later he ghosted me. I got a thank you card in the mail from the mother. Then he sends another message saying how he loves and hates me so much. What the heck and how dare he?

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Should I reply or keep it moving. He is just poking for some attention and ego stroke. Most likely he is trying to find his way back into your life. It is him checking if you are still holding on waiting for him after he put you on ice all this time.

Probably after telling another woman to move on. He is only thinking about he,himself and him and his needs. If you are unable to make any date with a girl, you can make yourself attractive so they will invite you for a date.

The Obsession Formula can do it easily for you. You can check it if you believe yourself. If you have met up and spent the night together, then you should give each other the respect and communicate after either for a second date or not.

Now lastly, if you have already been direct and communicated to someone you are not interested, yet they continue to contact you incessantly, it is perfectly fine to ghost. Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website.

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Luna on February 15, at am. Great insight. Thanks for sharing. Rachel on February 9, at am. JennyLyn on February 9, at pm. Rachel on February 12, at am. Afrok on February 9, at am. When you are dating a man, YOU need to decide what you want and YOU keep checking to see if the guy is living up to your expectations. By putting forth this effort is what makes a man fall in love with a woman.

She is the prize. From what you wrote, it sounds like you are checking for reassurance that things are going ok. This comes across as needy and is unattractive.

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A man wants to make a woman happy, but he does not want to be responsible for her happiness. By you asking if you have done anything wrong or how do you feel about me, makes you sound insecure. A better way to approach talking to a man is tell him what you want and wait to see what he says. When it comes to having a talk with a guy, you say, I am looking to date someone where it will lead to a long term situation.

Then you are quiet. If the guy is attracted to you and is also looking for the same, he will say so. If he is just looking for something casual he will say so. Again, before you have sex is also another great time to clarify what you want. You say, I only have sex with a man that I am in a committed monogamous relationship with.

Then let him tell you were he stands. If a man is mad at you, ask him what is going on? I think if you start approaching dating as in, is this guy good enough for me and what I want, not if you are pleasing him, you will be able to read the situation a whole lot better. You have lots and lots of questions and may never know the answers. May be even him does not know the answers or he knows but does not want to tell you the truth.

I do believe in Karma. I am going through the same thing. I met mine online and he is in the Air Force. I never saw it coming. I had no idea he was going to peace out. I had something of his and text him if he wanted it back and of course no answer so I threw it away. Keep the chin up! As unbelievable as it is - we all have relationships where we think everything is perfect but then find out it was basically perfect for us.

But men do the opposite - they feel their way through a relationship. They may persist in seeing a woman despite having reservations in hopes that their feelings will change, they may even project more than they feel thinking it will actually change the doubts they are struggling with - but then when they reached a limit every mans is different they will cut their losses quick.

And just to clarify - this man did not ghost you - yes he went no contact and that was cowardly and unkind - but a true ghosting is where a person is left absolutely wondering what went wrong, not hear from the person again or have the partner gaslight them they never had a relationship in the first place. You deserve that. Everyone does. Best to you. I know this is an old post but it missed it. The thing was the signs were there and this person had posted about her military diver before.

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Just had this recently happen - he was really mean too! Try keeping yourself busy and do things you enjoy. I know exactly how you feel Tabitha. The same thing happened to me. I was dating this Suddenlink cable contractor, and he would come visit me about only one or two days a week. I met him in May of and we would see each other only once or twice a week for about only 3 months. He never took me out anywhere and I never been too his place. He told me he was seeing someone, and this cuban girl from Florida that lived with him was planning on moving back to Florida after her mother in cuba got her papers to move to Florida so she could go stay with her mother.

He told me they slept in the same bed together but there was nothing physical. I think that is not true! He told me he was off Sundays, but he would never come visit me on his off day, and he never answered any of my texts or phone calls until he felt like it.

He also wanted to do anal sex but I told him hell no and that I did not like that. He also told me I was a good woman and beautiful inside and out, and that he did not feel comfortable around me. I asked him why, and he stated because of his lifestyle and that he liked a lot of sex. He also smoked marijuana.

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He disappeared for two weeks, then came back around. Around late July of was the last time I saw him. I never heard from him again.

I was told that he moved to Louisiana and found a better job. It broke my heart that he ghosted me.

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I do not play games with love. If I do not like you I will not waste my time being around you, and if I like you, Im with you. As an Afro American lady, I have always dated outside of my race, and this is the only black man I have ever fell in love with like this. He was different, and very charming, and we had so much in common. I was willing to give a guy of my nationality a chance but sad it did not work out.

Friends and family told me to let him go and move on with my life and that this was a lesson for me that I learned in life. He was not what I thought he was, and I take full responsibility for my actions, because I was too in love with him to see all the red flags. Its sad how some men play games with love because they are not mature enough to handle decent nice women. It seems like they love trashy, dirty slutty women that would do anything with lots of men. Men love nasty dirty trifling women, but they do not respect or want a decent humble, educated woman.

Well, this is a lesson for all of us decent women. If you see red flags do not fall in love and run away quick as you can!!! One more thing. I think the law is after this man. This guy really did me a favor by dissapearing, which gave me the opportunity to meet someone better,!!!! God is good all the time!!! This happened to me in my early twenties with an Army guy that I had fallen for. When it came time for him to leave the area, he had a choice to make: commit and take me with him, or drop me cold.

He chose the latter and it hurt for a very long time. You have to realize a lot of military men find a new girl each place they get stationed.

It was my fault for not waiting to see if he wanted me enough to pursue a commitment before I had sex and got emotionally attached. I tended to his needs, but he did not tend to mine. Learn some lessons and move forward with your life. Name required :. Mail will not be published required :. The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by A New Mode, Inc.

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