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My boyfriend and I broke up. Up until the last second of our relationship he insisted that he still loves me. Yet the very next day he was back online dating. And no, I wasn't on there looking for anyone else, that's not what happened. In fact, I am still very much in love with him. And no, he wasn't on there before we broke up either. Those are the facts.

When New York governor Andrew Cuomo issued a shelter-in-place mandate on March 22James had already packed his luggage and come to my place ahead of our departure. Now we found ourselves with an entirely new predicament. Even when we were together as a couple, spending a week together was difficult. But still, it felt like the right decision.

Neither of us had other places to go to be with people during the lockdown, and misery likes company, right?

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We thought the statewide quarantine would last, at most, three weeks, so why the hell not. Our quarantine together has provided us with time to reflect and start a new chapter in our platonic relationship.

Living together has been humbling, to put it nicely. It has forced us to communicate in a way that we never had to before.

In a square-foot studio apartment, there is no way two individuals can coexist without clear and thorough communication. Forced to actually talk things out, we are learning things about each other without the pretense of being in a relationship.

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He still catches me if I lose my balance, all the while making my disability seem like a distant thing in the background. Whether he is the man I walk down the aisle toward or one of my bridesmaids screw gender norms, right? It is a weird sensation to simultaneously grieve and celebrate two very different stages in our relationship. Sarah Kim is a freelance journalist and writer based in Brooklyn.

She mostly reports on diversity and inclusion in the realm of disability. You can follow her work here. Random men beamed straight into my bedroom, one right after another, thanks to an app. By Jenny Singe r. When you can't meet for a drink, I challenge you to ask yourself, What would Jane Austen do?

By Kaitlyn McQui n. The basic conditions of my life are suboptimal for falling in love. And that was before people started getting sick. By Lauren Waterma n. Topics relationship issues relationship advice breakups dating relationships Love In the Time of Corona. Read More. Love in the Time of Corona. How are you now? I see this post was a year ago and before I say anything to you, I wanted to see how your feelings and the situation have evolved.

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I am going through exactly what you described and this is why I am reaching out to you. I hope you get this message girl and hope your heart has healed Wow this is my exact problem at the moment Our relationship started going south the last few months But i knew it was complicating things so i told him we had to stop On a side note in the past that he admitted that when single or trying tofet over someone he goes on online dating sites because its a good distraction, etc I don't have anything against people who choose to use those sites because I've heard many success stories.

My current issue is the same as the original post I tried not to reply but when I eventually did, my anger came out commenting on how low he was to use that site I don't know I originally wrote this post a couple of years ago. Here's an ate and what I've learned in those two years.

Follow my advice if you don't want to end up in a situation similar to mine. So after I wrote this I was alone for a while and stopped talking to him. We each dated another person in between for a few months each. After all of that ended we started talking again. He took a job a thousand miles away and asked me to come out. I did. I stupidly accepted and believed him. I went home and left my career and everything in my life and packed up my things and gave a long notice at work, to go be with him because he was the love of my life, so I thought.

When I got there I found out he cheated on me before I even got there while we were engaged, it was with some girl he met online. I forgave him because I loved him and had already given up everything for him. We were going to get married next year but did much sooner because I got pregnant. Things had been going downhill for a while anyway.

It was all the same stuff as before and I should have known. Then I found out he had an Ashley Madison account. He lied about that, too, and literally everything else. Everything about him was a lie. He kicked me out while I was pregnant after a huge fight. He said the most horrible things that I wouldn't even say to my worst enemy and blamed everything on me.

I then went a thousand miles away back because I didn't have anywhere else to go and promptly had an awful miscarriage alone. He kept telling me he still loved me and we would work this out and be a happy family but eventually that stopped.

Then he said he didn't love me anymore last month and wanted a divorce. Then a week later he said he does love me. He flips back and forth all the time. You can never even be sure what's real and what's not. Now I gave up everything for him and he left me with less than nothing. I have no career, my friends are gone now, my baby is dead, I have no marriage, all I have are broken hopes and dreams, and now I'm getting older and I feel like it's just too late to start over.

I'm just sitting here waiting for a divorce. He was just selfish and manipulative. He never did any of the things he promised. What I learned from the online dating bs while you're together is that if someone is going to do that to you while you're in a relationship with you, don't think they won't do it again, or that they won't cheat on you. They will if given the opportunity.

At the time I forgave him, but this was just a little hint of what was to come. It was just a sign. I wish I knew that then. If they do that they clearly have absolutely no respect for you. Don't even waste your time. If they keep looking online and keep talking to you while you're breaking up, they're just keeping you around until they find something better. You're just their back-up plan. I wish I knew that and saw it back then.

I wish I listened to people but the truth hurt and I didn't want to see it. He seemed like the greatest guy on the outside but all of his little indiscretion became quite clear and his true self was awful. I still struggle and think that I love him, but what I really loved was the person he used to be, or at least the person I thought he was, but that person hasn't been around for a long time and maybe he never was. I loved the life we were supposed to have together, but he always just gave up on everything instead of fixing anything.

The bottom line is, even if you love him, let him go if he's doing things like that and treating you that way. Find someone who DOES respect you and treats you the way you treat them and deserve to be treated.

Weigh what you're giving and what you're actually getting in return. Write it down, you may be surprised at what you actually see on paper. Someone who really loves you will be an equal and treat you with dignity and respect. Someone who loves you will fight for you and fight through the bad with you and work it out.

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They will love you through through the good times AND the bad. They won't selfishly do things that will knowingly hurt you, instead they will emotionally support you, and you them. If even one person reads this and says to themselves, you're right, I've been through the same thing, and finds the courage to do what's right for them rather than keep trying to save something with someone who will never treat them they way they deserve, then my job is done here. Just remember, you are worth it and you deserve love and respect in your equal.

Part of me thinks it's too late for me to start over but eventually that may happen. It's just hard to ever trust anyone again after this. I don't know if I ever will. But if I ever do, I will never make the same mistakes again and will never stand for someone treating me like this.

The worst part is that people like this don't take responsibility for their actions. They loved to turn things around and blame it on you.

Even when he cheated on me it was somehow my fault as far as he was concerned. Don't ever let them try to make you think it's your fault when they are the ones doing awful things. It's not your fault. Don't look back. Find someone who loves you, respects you, and will stand up for you and your relationship. Find someone with integrity who you can trust.

If you can't have trust to build a relationship on you essentially have nothing. Don't settle for less. Firstly, I want to say how sorry I am to hear what you went through Thank you so so much for being truthful in this all, shedding light to prove, and sharing your final thoughts I am almost speechless, as I am so hurt that you had to go through that.

Please hold your head up and know that despite how horrible that experience was, that everything happens for a reason and is a lesson learned. Do not lose hope based on your age Friends come and go in life in general, whether they come back or not is also part of the fate My point is You have proven to be such a strong woman to go through what you have gone through, and still stand tall and strong - I am certain some lucky guy will see that light in you!

As for my situation - you are completely right. I know everyone will have different outcomes and all, but I agree that sometimes we need to note the signs and stop ignoring them because we are blinded by the feeling, the comfort, etc.

It is sometimes hard to separate the feelings especially when so much investment has gone in As an ate on my end, I went to get all my things the past weekend from this place, and we have not kept communication. Although, he DID just message this morning re. I know it is just his way to check in Good luck with your next steps You're a beautiful person for coming back to share.

Thank you. Every word you said is the truth. I feel so much compassion for you and any others going through this. Read 'Baggage Reclaim' It confirms everything you said. Thank you for having the courage to share. I have been going through this for 4 years only to be told I don't love you and I was using you. On again, off again I will see if he fights for me this time around. Thanks for ating this story.

Even if it's not really you who did the ate, this kind of made me realize to just move on.

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Yesterday my boyfriend basically broke up with me and decided to we are not compatibleso I asked him "are you breaking up with me? I love you a lot I love you soooo much. I talked to my friends about this, and they said some guys just are that way, they just won't end it the proper way because they keep you as a back up plan. They are cowardly and don't want to be the one to end it.

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After reading about your story, I realize there is no turning back, if he won't properly end it, I will be the bigger person and do it. I am totally done with this BS. It's difficult and hard to be alone; I am feeling it right now. Its hard to move forward but we MUST. If anyones reading this now, you are the most important person and no one should treat you like that. You may be experiencing pain now, but know that it can only get better from her.

That's what I'm trying to tell myself. I just close my eyes and imagine everything I want in your life right now Imagine what it would be like, and use that to keep you going and keep you living everyday.

There's this one youtube nooma video that I saw and it really stuck with me, but he quotes this verse "As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly. I'm trying hard to practice what I preach, it won't be easy, but I won't give up on myself and knowing how great I am, please don't give up on yourselves too. Don't let their bad character make you miserable. Take it day by day. Thanks again so much for sharing your story, you really made me feel more empowered to move on and be a strong person.

I am going to move on and stop trying to see if he's online and look at his profile It's not worth my time anymore. Wow i guess everyone goes through the same things. Were all strong woman though you know? The love of my life cheated on me and we loved each other like no other those dating sites are horrible anyone can make one. I dealt with that we met when we were both Okay well he cheated on me so i did the same it back fired on me now i have a beautiful baby.

I cant say that things are any different with my new guy.

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After we got into an argument broke up he sent me pictures of the girls he had messaged!! Like who tf does that. If he doesnt have any good for you guys. But make sure you dont spend any of your money on your guys. And check his profile if he hides it more than likely hes doing something behind your back. And honestly i felt so in love with my ex at 16 assumed i was in "love".

The worst is feeli g so comfortable looking into eachothers eyes. That sense of security. But that was lie to. Everything was ok, but we got into a big fight last month, and i texted him things like "I"m not a priority for you.

I'm over it. THen two days later I tried calling him and texting him and he wouldn't pick up for 1 week.

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He just texted me, "you said its over". He then went onto the dating site, and when I found his profile, I was just like Ok But then I just wanted closure and I apologized and he's still telling me he loves me even though he doesn't think it would workout long term.

He still uses words like "sweetie" and says "of course i still love you; you think my feelings just turned off for you? But is he just trying to keep my hooked because he's mad and wants to manipulate me? I know I'm acting like a dumb person now, thinking "oh maybe he still loves me etc I don't want to be one of those stupid people but I know i'm acting like one by still talking to him. So i can't let this relationship ruin my studies I needed closure and i know people say you can never get closure, but my closure was a phone call just letting him know how I felt, all my feelings.

Telling him how he can't text me as if we're still in a relationship, how hurt i felt, and that I knew he was online. I'm not sure he heard me, but for me, I just wanted to be heard you know? I felt like i was telling my friends everything and asking them for advice but in reality I just needed to face him and stop lying to myself. Even my friends said, there was NO point in telling him. I also didn't want to ever contact him again because of my pride.

I wanted it to be me rejecting him in a sense? But I called him anyways and now I feel like a weights been lifted off my shoulder. I can now just fully start to heal and move on. I tried my best and I can't do anything else to change the situation. Oh well goodnight.

I have a test in 4. I pray i pass and don't fail because of this Hi All! I recently broke up with my girlfriend. We survived the hard separation, but it happened. To soften the bitterness of parting, she and I have created profiles on dating sites.

I created a profile on website Kovla, and she - on the website eHarmony. Meet new people soften the pain of loss, allow a little forgotten.

We'll start again meet later, but so far we need a break from each other. Honestly I could have written this myself. We were together a Year. But everything always has to be his way, if he's annoyed hell lash out and have his say, and then says he's not arguing n drop it.

But why should I drop it when he's already caused the argument t. So I want my say in response, but because I retaliate it's my fault we argue and the one always wanting drama. He has several issues, will never admit then. Anger issues over ridiculous things he'll get so angry. And talk appallingly - calls me all sorts his mum get spoken to awfully too but he says its just because he's angry and then calms down and all is fine again.

He's very depressed etc but that's why we connected because we had a mutual understanding on that one. He would never come to mine I have my own house, he lives with his mum so hed expect me to drag my 4 year old to his and mess up her routine, so I stopped doin in because I couldn't put her through it any more. But because j refused to do that, it's my fault we never saw eachother the last 6 months were like it. He's a smoker weed and the main reason he doesn't come to mine is because he can't smoke at mine.

He'll never admit it. Petty argument escalated 2 weeks ago. Few exchanges back n forth, we still love eachother wish we could make it work blah blah blah, then few days ago I found out he had signed up online. I was heartbroken that we still haven't fully said that we're never getting back together and he's chattin with other girls.

I called him on it, he says that I don't k ke him that well if I reckon he'd jump into another relationship straight away. Says he only did it to see if he was liked.

Last night I set up a fake profile ridiculous I know but I needed to know Low n behold he's messagin chit chat to me and the "fake" profile too! Not flirting as such, but started making out tk this fake person that I still wanted him back and was upset bout breakup but what's the point in arguin constantly.

I'm now stck in limbo, because he's keeping me hanging and still seeing what's out there too, How can he claim to beso devastated bout s breaking up that e has to take time off work and has nothing to live for, but in the same breath have such lack of respect for me that he's chatting to God knows how many other girls.

I really love this guy, and I just want to get over him, but can't because I feel like I need to know whether his feelings for me were even genuine. Sorry for essay, nobody else to talk to! Your story has helped me out so much, I have been thru hell and back with my now ex boyfriend.

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We were together for 3 years, he lived with me for two. We met on Pof ugh and grew a very loving bond so I thought.

Things seemed good, but than he started asking me to borrow him money, he would almost guilt trip me if I didn't.

Dec 02,   The world of dating can be tough to navigate, and breakups are even harder - especially if you're trying to move on from a past relationship. You might be having a great week Author: Theresa Holland. So, this time around, rather than risk being drawn back into a relationship with him, she quickly moves on and starts dating other guys as a way to stop herself from being tempted to give him another chance. "My ex girlfriend moved on after two weeks. Did she ever love me?". My boyfriend and I broke up. Up until the last second of our relationship he insisted that he still loves me. Yet the very next day he was back online dating. And no, I wasn't on there looking for anyone else, that's not what happened. In fact, I am still.

Long story short, I fell into his trap and borrowed a lot of money to him. Well about a year into the relationship I found out he cheated on me and was talking with the other women daily.

He begged me to not leave him a do counseling, which I did. We went to counseling for a full summer. And ended up stopping when I caught him talking to her again I kicked him out of my house only for him to go talk to her some more and than like a fool I took him back a few days later, I don't get myself. We spent another two years together, with me not believing him and catching him in lie after lie.

By this point he'd borrowed 20k from me and just a week ago I came home from work to a note on tnt kitchen counter saying it's over- oh. Add to this, he would pack up all his things and leave and come back all the time, this was nothing new, but every time he did this I would panic, cry, drink, cry, drink. I got so low that I felt like ending my life.

I don't understand why I felt this crazy. Well, now that he's been gone for a week, he says he has no phone so can only email- lie again. Last night I went into my computer that I rarely use to configure my new fitbit only to see he didn't log out of his Gmail account.

Guess what, he already made a pof account and was chatting with other singles. That killed me. Three years and you can move on like that! He wrote me emails that's week saying he misses me and still loves me? Talk about confusing. I emailed him and called him out on his dating profile and he emailed back blaming me for everything and calling me horrible names, making fun of things I'd shared with him.

Just horrible. I have decided to never speak to him again, but what I cannot figure out is why it hurts so bad and why do I still love him? Hi, it's me again, the original poster. First let me just say wow.

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I never thought sharing my story online or in real life would be so helpful to so many people. I actually checked back here today because I'm actually doing so well and thought I'd just give an ate. I actually cried twice today - once earlier because I couldn't believe how well I'm doing and how happy and lucky I am, and the second time when I came back here and read all of your stories. My heart goes out to you all in such a big way. I wish I could hug every single one of you and let you know it's going to be okay because I really believe it will be and I hope deep down inside you know that, too.

I've been saying this for a while now, but sometimes the absolute worst thing you ever thought could happen to you ends up being the best thing that could ever happen in disguise.

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It may be really bad, you may even want to end your life at times, but we never know what lies ahead and how amazing it can be if we try to make some changes and then give it some time. After all of the horrible things I've been through in my life, some of which I know many people wouldn't have been able to fully recover from, I am so thankful - thankful that I did recover, thankful that I found the love and support I needed to get through this, thankful that I know I don't have to be the victim and am mentally strong enough to live my life for me and not let that any of that affect me or dictate the way I live.

I'm thankful just to be alive and my best revenge to the people who wronged me my almost ex-husband in particular is living a wonderful, full, happy life. Sometimes life doesn't turn out the way we thought it would - actually, most times it doesn't, or mine never did. But that isn't necessarily a bad thing even if it seems like it at the time. In the past year alone, I moved 3 times and will have to move one or two more before the year completes, I gave up my career when I was right where I wanted to be, I left my family and friends half way across the country, I got married and am still going through a divorce, I've lost a baby, I've been betrayed by the person I loved more than anything in the world on many levels, I've been abused and cheated on and lied to, I've been thrown out like a piece of trash while pregnant with his child, I'm pretty financially drained after everything, too, and I honestly couldn't feel any better than I do right now.

Sounds crazy, right? Hear me out. My life may not be perfect again yet, but I am trying the best I can to live for now and make it count. I've reconnected with all of my family and friends and even made new ones, and they are all very wonderful and I'm fortunate.

I know that. It took a lot of effort on my part to make this happen. All of this did. I am even seeing a very nice guy now. I didn't think I would be able to for a long time but sometimes it just happens. I had completely forgotten what a normal relationship even felt like or that they existed. I was so used to things being so bad that it felt normal and I was so deluded by it until I left and had some time away from it all.

There is a world of difference in every possible way and you can see right away all of those things you forgot about. Once you're removed from the situation for a period for a period of time it really becomes crystal clear. I may not have my career back on track just yet but that is coming along as well and I'm trying hard to make it happen. All of this did take quite a bit of time and it was horrible to go through, and I still have times when I remember something from the past and it brings me down, but those moments are getting less and less frequent now and much less extreme.

After the first few months, I've been improving faster than I ever thought possible. It's hard because this is the first time in my life that I haven't been able to completely forgive someone for what they did, and I've forgiven people for plenty of things that I know not everyone would. I suppose forgiveness is really something we do for ourselves, not the other person.

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I'm working on that. I'm a lot closer to forgiving him but it's a process and I'm at least comfortable with it now and it doesn't bother me anymore. When I would think of him, and there are still parts of me that miss things about my ex every once in a while, I just tell myself that I can't love a ghost. By that I mean I can't love someone who doesn't exist or no longer exists because he just isn't that person anymore, or he was never the person I thought he was or that he said he was.

May 05,   A week later in early February, right after this milestone, he dumped me. We had broken up several times before, and always knew in the back of . Most people that want to end the relationship, come to that conclusion long before telling their partner. And so, they grieve while they are still in the relationship. This does not necessarily mean that she started seeing someone before you broke. Jan 31,   When To Start Dating Again After A Breakup, According To Real Women three months after I broke up w my ex. I was ready like a week after we broke up but I was moving cities so I waited.

He proved that over and over again with his actions. Lesson learned. Always pay much more attention to someone's actions than their words. Words alone are not enough and can be deceiving. Anyway, once I got away from all of the bs that was clouding my vision, it really became clear how lucky I am and what a great life I'm making for myself again despite all the things that have happened to me. Starting over is a good thing. It's hard at first but it feels amazing to be me again. In a way I had given my ex control by letting him keep me down and I've taken that power back now.

Now I feel like I can be anything I want to be and do anything I want to do again. I don't judge myself by what others have done to me. I don't live my life being afraid. I haven't let him change me permanently.

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